by Amy NuttAdult massage is another way of saying that a massage that one person gives to another will include or lead to sexual contact. Don't expect to get a sensual massage at a spa. If you walk in to a conventional spa or massage therapy center and ask for a massage with "a little something extra," you're bound to at least be disappointed -- if not thrown out on the street.
The massage therapists who work at spas are trained in therapeutic massage, which has nothing to do with providing sexual gratification. Rather, these professional masseuses use their knowledge of the body to provide relaxation and accelerate the healing process.
Adult massage as it is conventionally known is an illegal, underground service where men are massaged in a way that provides sexual gratification. In common parlance, these are known as 'full release' massages. In most parts of the world, any massage parlor or center that offers a 'full release' adult massage is breaking the law.
Even so, adult massage parlors are far from uncommon. They can be found in nearly every metropolitan area in the Western world, often in second story walk-ups on the shady side of town.
It is a breach of spa etiquette to ask for sex, or any form of sexual contact as part of a conventional therapeutic massage. If you disregard this fact and ask a massage provider for sexual contact, the massage therapist will pause and tell you that is not the purpose of this massage. The masseuse might continue working, but don't be surprised if they don't. If you persist with these requests, the masseuse will discontinue working and you may wind up in legal trouble.
Massage therapists commonly say that me usually ask for sex in an indirect fashion, requesting that they "work higher" when they get to their thighs or "work lower" when they massage their chest and abdomen. Once again, this is inappropriate behavior.
That said, adult massage does in fact have its place in life. The home. Requesting an adult massage from your massage therapist might not be the best idea, but requesting your sexual partner to give you a full release massage in the privacy of your home can be fun and appropriate.
There are many resources where you can learn about sensual massage. Many books have been written on the subject. Also, there are numerous different types of massage oils and pleasure-enhancing products that are commercially available.
Experts recommend using sensual, adult massage as a fun and healthy way to express our sexual nature. Many experts say sexual massage should be an end in itself, not just a part of foreplay.
If you are considering incorporating sensual massage into your love life, first have a discussion about it with your partner. You don't need to be crafty or suggestive about it. Just plainly mention it to your partner and he or she will likely be amenable to it. Even if you feel shy or embarrassed about your desires, shelve your trepidation and ask. Make your partner a gift basket with a book on sensual massage and several bottles of massage oil. Perhaps a CD of sexy music and a bottle of wine might help.
Remember to be safe, and have fun!
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