Ladies: When you go on a first date, it's a good idea to have some standards and guidelines that will help you know, quickly and efficiently, if he's worth a second look. Don't waste time dating Mr. Wrong!

If he falls far short in any or several of these categories (one or two small deficiencies may be excusable), starting a relationship with him may not be a good idea. Don’t despair if he does--you're now free to look for other, better prospects.

If all goes well, this first date may lead to another, then another, and you're off on the Road to a Relationship. But don't speed down this road in a souped-up convertible with the top down, no matter how much fun it seems to be! Keep your eyes open and your judgment intact.

As a single woman, you are entitled to expect the following traits from your first date.

· Reliable: Did he call you when he stated he would?



· Accessible: Did he provide you with his cell phone number and email address, in case you need to reach him about an unexpected change in plans?



· Approachable: Did he welcome you to contact him at any time?



· Conscientious: Is the planned activity both convenient and enjoyable?



· Accommodating: Did he suggest and book a suitable place to meet?



· Thorough: Were you impressed with the arrangements that were made?



· Polite: Did he show good manners?



· Connectable: Was it easy to talk, or did making conversation feel like “pulling teeth”?



· Attentive: Did he listen to what you told him or hinted about your personal preferences?



· Generous: Did he reserve a table at a restaurant suitable for intimate dialogue, and did he tip appropriately?



· Comfort: Did you leave with the feeling that you would really enjoy spending time together in the future?



· Chemistry: Are you physically attracted to your date?



· Integrity: Did he seem honest?



· Safety: Did you feel secure throughout the evening?





About the Author:

Nicholas Aretakis is author of Ditchin' Mr. Wrong: How to End a Bad Relationship and Find Mr. Right (Next Stage Press, 2008). He hosts an interactive online community for single women at ditchingmrwrong.com

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