So who says that you cannot indulge in sex games when you guys are apart? Of course you can! In fact, it's the perfect situation to engage in naughty phone sex.
If you or your partner is away and you're feeling frisky, what do you do? You can certainly have solo sex, but it might be more fun to include your partner... via the phone.
Phone sex can be fun, naughty and lively. It can be exciting, a little dangerous and even a little embarrassing. But it helps if you know how to have phone sex. That is, what should you say? What can you expect from her? Will it feel silly?
Phone Sex - A Sex Game to Be Played Apart
First, talk to your partner about this. Before one of you is away, gently broach the subject to see how open she is to it. You can explain to her that you won't expect her to do or say anything she might feel funny about, but that you are encouraging her to have some fun with it. You should already have a good idea how open she is to pleasuring herself and talking dirty to you, so you'll likely have a good idea how she's going to react before you even suggest it.
Next, when the time comes, be relaxed. Encourage her to take a bath before the two of you get on the phone, or to talk to you from the bath. If both of you are really relaxed the phone sex will be more fun, a bit more naughty and ultimately more satisfying.
When you start out, don't be serious right out of the gate. This could be a turn off for both you. Keep it light. Ask her what she's wearing and ask if she'd be willing to take a piece of clothing off. Tell her you are in those great silk boxers she loves so much and they feel so good.
To really have fun with phone sex, you must be willing to talk dirty, but here's a word of caution, guys - don't overdo it. While women often need a little coaxing to get into talking dirty, many men have no trouble at all. But if you get really dirty, or really crude, you might turn her off. Be sure you consider her needs when you get into the talking stage here.
As you talk dirty, share some fantasies. These fantasies can be about what you want to do to her right now (or what you would do if you were with her) or they can be a fantasy you would never intend on fulfilling, but that's fun to think about anyway.
Be sure to focus on her pleasure as much as your own. As she's talking dirty to you, you tell her what you would like to do to her. Where would you touch her? What would you do? How will it feel for her and for you?
Be sure to tell her when you're hard and encourage her to tell you when she's good and ready, as well. This will help to turn the both of you on even more.
Encourage the use of toys. If she has a dildo or vibrator, encourage her to use it. Ask her how it feels and tell her what you would do to her right now that would also feel good. If the toy makes noise, think about how she's feeling right now, how she's enjoying her own pleasure. That's sure to bring you pleasure as well.
Be vocal. Neither of you should be shy about moaning in pleasure. Tell her to let you know how she's feeling. Her moans will excite you more and your own groans will do the same for her.
It's not surprising at all that you guys reach an orgasm via phone sex. If you (or she) are on the verge of coming, try to keep the shouting to a minimum. In fact, here's a tip: as you come, whisper to your partner what's happening to you at that exact moment on the phone. That's way more sexy and hot than shouting expletives.
Reaching an orgasm via phone sex is just like reaching one together, there should be some afterglow activities. So don't say `thanks' and hang up. Talk a bit more and say sweet nothings to each other.
Now end the discussion by saying that she just waits until you come home!
About the Author:
Gabrielle Moore is the co-author of The http://www.thegspotcode.com ">G Spot Code. It teaches men how to please women with G Spot orgasms every time. For more information, go to: http://www.thegspotcode.com
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